Tools for Parents

Free, practical tools for parents and families

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Survivor Toolkit

A free toolkit for survivors. Carey serves on the board of Rise & Rebuild.

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CourtBinder

A tool to help parents organize court documents and evidence.

Carey Ann George is one of CourtBinder's developers and partners.

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What to bring to your lawyer

A printable checklist

  • A timeline of every court date, motion and order, with dates.
  • Copies of every parenting plan, custody order and protective order.
  • The names and roles of every professional involved (for example GAL, evaluators, therapists, CPS).
  • Notes on every denied or interrupted parenting time (dates and witnesses).
  • School, medical and therapy records for your child.
  • Any written communication about safety, denied access or coercion.
  • A short written summary of what you are asking the court to do, and why.

This is a starting point, not legal advice. A licensed family law attorney in your state can tell you what applies to your case.

Learn the research

The science of attachment and childhood

These researchers and studies shape how we think about children's long-term wellbeing.

John Bowlby

Founder of attachment theory.

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Mary Ainsworth

Pioneering research on secure attachment.

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Allan Schore

Research on attachment and early brain development.

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Bessel van der Kolk

Research on how trauma affects the body and mind.

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The ACE Study

Research linking adverse childhood experiences to long-term health.

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Reform frameworks to know

Troxel II

A proposed child-centered legal framework built on the U.S. Supreme Court's parental-rights cases (Meyer, Pierce, Santosky and Troxel v. Granville). It proposes six principles, including that both safe, fit parents stand as equals unless harm is proved by clear and convincing evidence, that any restriction on a parent-child bond use the least restrictive means, that judges, not advisors, make decisions with written findings, and that decisions rest on specific conduct linked to real harm rather than labels.

The paper also names a "dual failure": fit parents separated from their children on unreliable grounds, and genuine survivors of domestic violence struggling to be believed.

Source: "Constitutionalizing Family Law: The Madisonian Project in Troxel II" by Daniel J. Sturtevant, Ph.D. We share this to help parents learn. It is one proposal among several, and it is not legal advice.

If you are in crisis

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